H is for – well, “habits” of course!😝 An amazing life doesn’t happen by engaging in one-off random actions. According to Aristotle “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
What you do every single day adds up, over time, to become the very foundation of your life – your money habits, your health habits, your relationship habits, your work habits, and might I add, OR LACK THEREOF are creating a trajectory for where you’re heading on a choice by choice, decision by decision basis.
One of the keys to reaching a new goal is to have habits in place that support that goal. If your current habits are counter-productive, you’ll need to change them or run the risk of coming up short. Habits aren’t always just the actions we do – do you have a habit of criticizing yourself? Do you have the habit of congratulating yourself on all your wins, including the small ones? How you habitually treat yourself and others is going to have a profound impact on the life you experience.
A is for “attitude” because how you habitually think and feel becomes your world view (and mood!). Your habitual judgements will create one type of experience for you just as much as your habitual appreciation of others will create another.
Having a happy outlook helps you stay motivated. Being successful takes work, and that’s just more fun when you’re enjoying what you’re doing. While not every task, and everything that needs to be taken care of will be your favorite task, having a positive attitude about it will help.
Start by becoming more aware of your moods and outlooks as you go about your day. Make an effort to appreciate and find the good side of things. Over time your positivity will increase, and it will help you stay on track and stay motivated.
Having a good attitude helps you overcome hurdles. It’s easy to get discouraged when things don’t go your way or fall through. We all face setbacks. We all make mistakes. How we deal with them is what set’s successful people apart from the rest. Work on your positivity and find a lesson in everything that happens. You’ll come out on the other side stronger and better than before.
B is for “behavior” – did you know that it is actually more effective to behave your way into a new of thinking than it is to think your way into a new way of behaving?
All your behavior (from habits) is a result of your current belief system so if you want to change the results you’re getting, you have to change your behavior.
Transformation in your life occurs from taking action with the behaviors you’d like to exhibit – then you start to think of and see yourself as a person who does the new behavior.
Before you create new, positive habits, you’ll want to figure out which habits will help you attain your goals. For every goal, there are habits that can practically guarantee success. Reflect on your goals and what actions you can take to help bring them about.
I is for “investing” and yet I’m not simply referring to financial habits here. What habits do you have which support the relationships you treasure the most? How much time, attention and energy do you invest in the people you love?
While I cannot recall the course I learned it in, the advice was to save our best manners and kindness for those we live with and “if you have to be rude, be rude to strangers” Yet isn’t that the opposite of what we do? We’re nice to random people we will never see again then go home and snap at those who we say mean the most to us.
When you think about it that way, doesn’t it seem totally messed up?
T is for “thank you” – seriously, make it a habit to say thank you. All the time. As in, ALL.THE.TIME.
Gratitude and appreciation are a choice of perspective – and one of the biggest bonuses for using these words on a habitual basis is for how good they make YOU feel.
One of my favorite quotes ever is “what if the only two words we could ever say to both God and each other were Thank You”. It’s a nice way to live.
p.s. I thought the quote above was one by Albert Einstein and yet I couldn’t find the author of it. I like it so much I posted it anyway!
S is for “stack” your habits! If there is something new you’d like to embrace and make a habit, stack it with something you already do – I call it the “when I / then I” routine.
“When I” shut the kitchen light off at night “then I” will also turn down the thermostat.
“When I” get frustrated that someone is repeating themselves, “then I” will remember that they aren’t doing it on purpose to annoy me (if they were, it’s working wonderfully well!…lol) and instead will feel compassion that their memory is having a challenge.
Yep, still working on that one. Just sayin’. 😉