The thing is, when we have low expectations, we are seldom disappointed. We will talk ourselves into talking ourselves out of what we really want to achieve or what we think we can do and have when our daily theme is “I can’t because of (fill in the blank) ” and, quite frankly, I call B.S. (Belief Systems!) That is an attitude and not a fact – until a person focuses on that thought so many times that they make it “real” for themselves. Argue for your limitations and sure enough they are yours.
Your actions (or lack of) are a result of your current thinking – which is programmed to keep you exactly where you are. To change the results you’re getting, you have to change your behavior and to change your behavior you have to change what you believe.
You can’t think your way into a new way of behaving — you actually have to behave yourself into a new way of thinking. True change begins when you take action in ways that are consistent with the behaviors you’d like to exhibit. The experiences you then have (behaving in a new way) interrupt the old way of thinking. From there, you start to see yourself and to think of yourself as a person who does this new behavior. Transformation is only temporary until it becomes a part of who you are and how you see yourself.
Your subconscious mind (the part of your mind which is really running your life) wants to keep you “safe” while doing exactly what you’re doing – and if what you were doing right now was what you needed to do to achieve your goals you’d be there already.
Here are the real steps you need to take and the five levels of commitment to move through to accomplish your desired outcome:
There are one of two paths people typically follow to achieve their goal.
On path A – this person starts out with their “I wish I could” and out of pure excitement jumps immediately to the “I am” step. It sounds like “I am getting up at 4:30 AM starting Monday morning, I’m doing 2 hours of MLS searches, then I’m going to drive neighborhoods with my door hangers AND so I’m totally on my game, I’m quitting drinking”. This approach usually lasts until about noon or at the latest until 5 PM Tuesday when everyone else is going for Happy Hour.
On path B – this person thinks “I wish I could”. A lot. Then they think “I want to”. A lot. Then, they think about the plans they could make, the kind of plan it would take, the plan they should make. A lot.
Neither path gets them there because each phase of achieving a goal requires addressing the “stuff” that comes up during it. Someone who jumps to the end hasn’t spent time on putting a firm foundation in place to build upon to reach the next level, and the person who procrastinates and analyzes each level never moves beyond the first one or two because, again, they are not dealing with the internal resistance that comes up about doing something new or different.
I’m about to offer you an exclusive opportunity, partly as a thank you for taking a ‘test drive’ with me and partly because I’m selfish and nothing gives me more joy than watching someone bring their vision to life!
Work with me in a 60-minute one-on-one to go through the digital version of my newest ‘Good to Goal Formula’ I’ll be recording and releasing for download. This means you get personalized assistance with your most important real estate goal as I fine-tune and build out the content for the final version. Includes Zoom recording and 44-page Good to Goal Playbook.